For most of the time since the foundation of NATO, it has been US policy to encourage its NATO allies to be dependent on it. The US view was that non-US NATO members should focus on local operations & specific capabilities in the interest of efficiency, e.g. the Belgian navy should focus on MCM, & their forces should be under NATO command. The USA discouraged its NATO allies from building independent capabilities.Typically US allies depend heavily on cooperative military actions with the US, but said allies typically also neglect some of their own military capacity to create that dependence. It's not a good dependence. The US probably does not appreciate spending treasure on something it expects its allies to do on their own.
The UK & France were just about the only countries which had some ability to act independently.
So what you're saying is that the USA doesn't like doing what it's spent decades trying to get its allies not to do, & expects them to do without it, even though the forces they have to do it with operate under a multinational command structure in which the USA is the biggest member.
European NATO members have been moving away from that in recent years, but there's often been US resistance to that move, saying that it's wasteful for them to duplicate US capabilities or those which are joint with the USA.